In 2004 I had a heart attack. That was right after fucking my wife. She thinks she did it. Sex has been strained ever since. About 10 years ago she quit. I went back to having fun with men. She has no idea. I used craigslist, but that is gone. What's a guy to do!

Apparently, your idea of “intimacy” is taking your clothes off and having sex. How were you intimate when you first met, were there gentle touches, soft kisses, passion and hunger in your eyes when you looked at her? Why not consider “courting” her the same way you did years ago? Who knows, it might lead into something you both enjoy.

Same for me luckily a female friend vivits us once a yrar, my wifz usually goes to bed early and sleeps like a log so my much younger friend wanks blows and licks me to an orgasm and then I lick and finger fuck her to one too. she won't fuck because for some reason that's not how women treat other women. the rest of the time I wank daily on the memory.

My wife has never needed it. She always hated to fuck. The last time that she let me stick my cock into her was over 20 years ago.

For a few years after that last glorious fuck, even she admitted that it was pretty good, she liked me well enough that she would do the occasional suck job/ hand job, but soon quit that. She would do something if I begged, but now she just laughs when I ask.

So, what to do? I long ago decided that I would cheat if the opportunity arose. But, I am terrible at seduction. No woman has ever seemed interested. Some time ago, I decided that I would let guys suck my aching cock, but have not found anyone interested close by.

Good luck to you. It isn't cheating to let some else use something that your wife has no interest in.

I understand. It's been 4+ years for me and my wife. I masturbate a lot.

'been there, done that...